Heal your attachment style with guided self-therapy

Heal your attachment style for healthy relationships with yourself and others.

Discover the transformative power of understanding your attachment style in this blog dedicated to offering psychological insight and practical strategies for people to embark on their own journey of self-therapy.

Delve with me into the depths of Attachment Theory, and explore how your early childhood attachment forms the blueprint of your core beliefs, patterns of emotional activation and coping mechanisms.

Gain insight into the workings of your nervous system and how your thoughts, feelings and physiology all influence each other, and learn effective and intentional tools for self-regulation.

Learn how to better understand the attachment styles of others, and how to develop a more secure attachment with healthy relationships.

The deeper you take this work, the more you discover how completely your attachment type shapes the way you see the world and position yourself in it.

I am a qualified therapist with a Masters in Psychology, a Post-graduate Diploma in Arts Therapy, and a Bachelor of Counselling. I have worked extensively in the field of attachment trauma in my professional practice and have spent decades on my own path of informed self-reflection.

In my own healing journey, I knew that my Fearful Avoidant attachment style would be my Final Boss. When I started to really deep-dive into it, I was floored by just how much it had shaped me, and it will always continue to.

The way I like to think of it is that my attachment style is what I am made from, it is the edifice of my being, and I was built that way for self-protection and survival. But the more I do the work, the more I clear out old junk and add features for safety, accessibility, and comfort.

Thus making myself both more open and secure, a better home for myself, and better able to be a safe haven for others.

Professional therapy is amazing and if you can find and afford a good therapist that you gel with then it is highly recommended, it will make your journey that much easier, smoother and safer. However, I know that for many it is just not accessible for a variety of reasons.

Self-therapy is hard, it takes the ability to be both brutally honest and wholly compassionate with yourself, but given the right tools and a commitment to the task as a lifelong pursuit you can absolutely find profound self-insight, peace and healing.

An important part of this process is knowing when you do need to reach out for support. If you are struggling to the point of not being able to cope or you feel unsafe, please do talk to someone, and keep talking to people until you find someone who can help.

Heal your attachment style for healthy relationships with yourself and others.

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