Heal your attachment style with guided self-therapy

Heal your attachment style for healthy relationships with yourself and others.

Discover the transformative power of understanding your attachment style in this blog dedicated to offering psychological insight and practical strategies for people to embark on their own journey of self-therapy.

Delve with me into the depths of Attachment Theory, and explore how your early childhood attachment forms the blueprint of your core beliefs, patterns of emotional activation and coping mechanisms.

Gain insight into the workings of your nervous system and how your thoughts, feelings and physiology all influence each other, and learn effective and intentional tools for self-regulation.

Learn how to better understand the attachment styles of others, and how to develop a more secure attachment with healthy relationships.

The deeper you take this work, the more you discover how completely your attachment type shapes the way you see the world and position yourself in it.

I am a qualified therapist with a Masters in Psychology, a Post-graduate Diploma in Arts Therapy, and a Bachelor of Counselling. I have worked extensively in the field of attachment trauma in my professional practice and have spent decades on my own path of informed self-reflection.

Why Attachment Theory?

Throughout my work on myself and with others, I have found Attachment Theory to be an incredibly useful foundational framework to help unravel the question, "Why am I like this?", and it blends very well with other therapeutic tools and modalities to support healing and growth.

In this work I put a strong emphasis on building healthy relationships and secure attachment, as I believe that having close and meaningful connections with people is vital for wellbeing, and Attachment Theory offers deep insight into relationship dynamics and a way to understand your patterns of attraction and reactivity.

However, the impacts of your attachment style extend far beyond the relational sphere, it shaped the early childhood development of your core beliefs and coping mechanisms so it shows up in all areas of your life. Understanding how these dynamics play out for you is key to breaking the cycle of repeating the same patterns over and over.

I also strongly emphasize the link between attachment and the nervous system, as while it's important to do all the reflecting and introspecting of "top down" cognitive processing, I think it's crucial too to develop "bottom up" somatic processing, developing more awareness of how triggers and emotions show up in the body and practices to help you regulate, instead of being activated into patterns of reactivity.

I plan to develop and collate resources and worksheets as well to supplement the writing, so please stay tuned!

Professional therapy is amazing and if you can find and afford a good therapist that you gel with then it is highly recommended, it will make your journey that much easier, smoother and safer. However, I know that for many it is just not accessible for a variety of reasons.

Self-therapy is hard, it takes the ability to be both brutally honest and wholly compassionate with yourself, but given the right tools and a commitment to the task as a lifelong pursuit you can absolutely find profound insight, peace and healing.

An important part of this process is knowing when you do need to reach out for support. If you are struggling to the point of not being able to cope or you feel unsafe, please do talk to someone, and keep talking to people until you find someone who can help.

Heal your attachment style for healthy relationships with yourself and others.

Why Attachment Theory?

Can Self-Therapy work?